If you are feeling resentful toward someone, maybe the problem is not the other person. Maybe the problem is that you gave away power — over your time, over your emotions, over a relationship — that you shouldn’t have. You want someone else to fix the problem, to take better care of what you’ve given away, to give it back to you. But that person may not even want or need that power, or be aware that they have it. Maybe the solution is not to confront them about their misuse, but to simply reclaim what you should never have given away in the first place.