A week ago, my husband and I had a humorous interaction with some friends over lunch. They asked a question and in the process of answering, Dave said, “I tell myself that…” and continued to address the question. We all began to joke about how just “telling yourself” something does not make it true, and that if Dave truly did operate by that philosophy, that suddenly explained a LOT of things over our 16-year marriage!
Our discussion over lunch was completely in good fun, but the fact remains that all of us have messages that we “tell ourselves” and that define our perspective of reality; and therefore, our actions and responses. Here are some of the things we tell ourselves:
- “I can eat whatever I want and not gain weight.”
- “It’s OK just this once.”
- “Things are perfectly fine within my organization.”
- “That rule (of traffic, nature, physics, God’s Word) doesn’t apply to me.”
- “This (hard conversation/action) is not worth the conflict that would result.”
- “These are isolated incidents, not a pattern.”
I’m sure you can think of additional examples. How do you know if you’re telling yourself things that may not reflect reality? First, by being willing to look at the facts, even when they mean you need to adjust your own paradigm. Second, by making sure you have people who can speak honestly into your life and ministry.
What have you been telling yourself lately?